Help for Sex Addiction
Healthy sexuality is an important part of our lives. When someone is struggling with sex addiction, the trust, deep connection, mutual pleasure of sexual intimacy is lost. At the root of the addiction is an impaired belief system that allows the addict to rationalize their behavior.
The first stage of the addiction cycle is preoccupation. The addict’s mind is completely taken over by thoughts of sex. This increases as the addict engages in the next stage of the cycle called ritualization. Every addict has a way that they prepare for sexually acting out. Here, the preoccupation becomes a trance-like state as certain cues in the environment stimulate them. This leads to the third stage of the cycle, acting out, where the addict engages in their preferred behavior and is powerless to stop. No matter how many times the addict makes promises to himself or herself to stop, they repeat the pattern which leads to the fourth stage of the cylce, despair. The cycle self-perpetuates, leaving the addict feeling failure and remorse.
There are many tools that are available to treat sex addiction. I offer two different types of assessments. First, take the questionnaire below...
1. Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
2. Do you hide some of your sexual behavior from others?
3. Have you ever sought help for sexual behavior you did not like?
4. Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behavior?
5. Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
6. When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterward?
A positive response to one would indicate a need for additional assessment while two or more indicates sexual addiction.
Next publication run will be shipped on Nov 15th, 2025.
Sobriety is cheap. Sustainability is everything. In The Sexual Integrity Workbook, esteemed professor and clinician Blair P. Bisher offers a blueprint for those seeking to overcome problematic sexual behaviors for the rest of their lives.
30+ new tools, exercises, sobriety plans, check-ins and reflection check-points to reinforce learning and promote personal growth.
Drawing from his extensive experience and research, Bisher presents a meticulously crafted 14-item curriculum designed to guide readers through the complexities of sexual addiction, porn addiction and adjacent problematic sexual behavior to land at a place of self-expertise where the individual can explain to themselves and their partners how destructive behavior patterns were offering a solution for them despite the consequences.
This solution-focused workbook not only unravels the root causes of such behaviors but also empowers individuals with practical tools and strategies to achieve lasting freedom – to be certain, not hopeful, that the future will be different and trust can be restored in their lives and relationships. Each chapter delves into critical aspects of sustainable sobriety, from understanding the addiction cycle, what underlying needs have yet to be resolved, resolved the public/private personality split that often occurs, helping the individual answer the question, “How could you do this?” and equally important, “How can I trust you again?”
Bisher's empathetic, empowering and person-centered approach ensures that readers feel supported and humanized throughout their journey. This book includes over 30 new tools and exercises as well as daily check-ins and reflection check-points to reinforce learning and promote personal growth between sessions. Whether you're personally struggling with sexual addiction, porn addiction, infidelity, other problematic sexual behavior or you are supporting a loved one on their path to recovery, "The Sexual Integrity Workbook" offers invaluable insights and guidance.
Embark on a transformative journey towards a life of integrity, purpose, and genuine connection.
About the Author: Blair P. Bisher is a Boston-based professor, nationally certified counselor, master's level clinician with dual degrees in Clinical Mental Health Counseling and Health Administration, is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist candidate and is currently working on his PhD in Counseling Psychology with a focus on sustainable sexual integrity.
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