Sextortion Resources
Sextortion Resources for Adult Men
Sextortion can happen to anyone and has been skyrocketing recently where men are engaging in sexual activity, online, texting or in-person and then threatened to have all activities shared with a list of family and friends that the criminal has acquired. We wanted to be able to provide a list of resources and steps men can take if you’ve been “Sextorted".” If you've been engaging in sexualized behavior with a stranger who’s now threatening to expose your infidelity or emotional relationships online and now face financial threats or the risk of exposure to your family, community, or friends, know that you are not alone. Immediate action can help protect your reputation and stop further exploitation.
Contact your local FBI field office, call 1-800-CALL-FBI, or report it online at tips.fbi.gov.
Research: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160791X24001659
Immediate Steps to Take:
Stop Communication Immediately:
Do not engage further with the perpetrator.
Avoid negotiating or sending money—this rarely ends the threats.
Preserve Evidence:
Take screenshots of all communications, emails, messages, usernames, and transaction records.
Document the date and time of threats clearly.
Report to Law Enforcement:
Report immediately to your local police department or nearest FBI office.
Report to the Online Platform:
Notify the platform (Facebook, Instagram, dating apps, etc.) where the interaction took place.
Seek Legal Advice:
Consider consulting an attorney who specializes in cybercrimes and sextortion.
Resources and Support:
FBI Sextortion Resources:
Office for Victims of Crime:
Cohasset Police Department Resource Guide:
Internet Watch Foundation (UK-Based):
Emotional and Mental Health Support: Being sextorted is deeply distressing, and it's important to seek support. Consider speaking confidentially with a therapist to manage stress, anxiety, and feelings of shame or guilt.
Consider joining BPB Counseling weekly men’s group where many men have experienced sextortion.
You are not alone.
Research:
R.J. Notté. (2024). Exploring the impact of sextortion on adult males: a narrative approach. Technology in Society, 78, 102617–102617. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.techsoc.2024.102617
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160791X24001659
Abstract:
This research provides a comprehensive exploration into sextortion, specifically focusing on adult male victims—an understudied demographic in the realm of Image Based Sexual Abuse. Through seven in-depth interviews, a narrative approach was employed to uncover both objective and subjective victim experiences. While the objective narratives presented a homogeneous storyline, the subjective accounts revealed a profound impact that goes beyond the immediate incident of victimization, deeply influencing respondents' self-perception and outlook towards the future. Key findings highlighted feelings of vulnerability, deception, powerlessness, and self-blame. Concerns regarding the perceived safety of online platforms emerged, emphasizing an urgent need for heightened protection and accountability measures. A significant reluctance among victims to report their experiences was identified, suggesting potential underreporting in official channels. The research underscores the pressing need for specialized therapeutic interventions and enhanced data collection methods to better serve this vulnerable population. In conclusion, this study acts as a foundational piece, urging further research and practical interventions to both diminish sextortion risks and provide robust support for adult male victims.
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From Boston Proper: If driving, take Storrow Drive west toward Soldiers Field Road and continue onto Arsenal Street. Turn right onto School Street and left onto Mt Auburn Street; the destination will be on your right. For public transportation, take the Red Line to Harvard Station and transfer to the MBTA Bus 71 toward Watertown Square, disembarking at Mt Auburn St @ Bigelow Ave. Ride-sharing services like Uber or Lyft provide direct routes.
From South of Boston (e.g., Dedham, Quincy): Drivers can take I-95 North to exit 26 and merge onto MA-20 East. Continue on MA-20, turn right onto Stow Street, and then left onto Mt Auburn Street. Public transit from Dedham requires taking the MBTA Bus 34E to Forest Hills Station, transferring to the Orange Line to Downtown Crossing, then switching to the Red Line to Harvard. From there, take MBTA Bus 71 to Mt Auburn St @ Bigelow Ave. Ride-sharing is an alternative, though the cost may be higher for longer distances.
From West of Boston (e.g., Waltham, Newton): The fastest driving route is via MA-16 East or Arsenal Street, then turning onto Mt Auburn Street. Public transit options include taking the MBTA Bus 70 from Waltham Center to Watertown Square, then walking or transferring to Bus 71.
To 14 Cedar St, Amesbury, MA
From Boston Proper: If driving, take I-93 North to I-95 North and continue for about 55 miles. Take exit 58B for MA-110 West toward Amesbury, merge onto Elm Street, and turn right onto Cedar Street. For public transit, take the Newburyport/Rockport Commuter Rail from North Station to Newburyport. From there, transfer to MVRTA Bus 54 toward Amesbury and disembark at Cedar St @ Elm St.
From South of Boston (e.g., Dedham, Quincy): Drive north on I-95 and follow the same directions from Boston. Public transit from Dedham requires taking the MBTA Bus 34E to Forest Hills Station, the Orange Line to North Station, and then continuing via the commuter rail and MVRTA Bus 54 as outlined above.
From West of Boston (e.g., Framingham, Worcester): The best driving route is taking I-90 East (Mass Pike) to I-95 North and following the directions from Boston. Public transportation from this area is more complex and requires first traveling into Boston to access North Station’s commuter rail.
For both locations, ride-sharing services like Uber or Lyft are available, though longer distances—such as from Boston to Amesbury—may result in higher fares. Cycling may be an option for shorter distances, but road conditions and safety should be considered. Public transit schedules should be checked in advance, as some bus and train routes may have limited service times.
