BPB Counseling Group in Boston, Massachusetts provides Individual & Couples Therapy for Porn Addiction, Sex Addiction, Infidelity, and Problematic Sexual Behavior. Blair typically works with the primary client while Couples expert, Jess Benedetto, provides therapy for betrayed partners. Group and Intensive Therapy are also provided for both clients and betrayed partners.
Blair treats men working to understand, overcome and heal from problematic sexual behavior: porn addiction, sex addiction and infidelity.
Blair’s approach focuses on the person, not the “problem,” leveraging a solution-focused, empathic and empowering approach with a focus on achieving sustainable sexual integrity through identifying then meeting the underlying need.
Sessions can be scheduled directly online including same-day and evening options. Sessions are guided by a curated 14-item curriculum, and include homework to aid further development between sessions.
How to Schedule a Session: Appointments are available 6 days per week, including evening sessions. Simply click to schedule your first session, an initial consult, an in-person intensive or to join the Men’s Sexual Integrity Group.
Blair is a National Certified Counselor (NCC), currently a doctoral candidate pursuing his Ph.D. in Psychology with a focus on resilience and sustainable sexual integrity amongst those meeting criteria for problematic sexual behavior. He is a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist candidate, holds two MS degrees (Clinical Mental Health Counseling and Health Administration), passed the National Clinical Mental Health Counselor exam (NCMHCE), is a professor at two universities in Boston, is a former advisory board member at Harvard Medical School (Center for Primary Care), and member of both the American Counseling Association and International Institute for Trauma & Addiction Professionals.
Jess treats individuals, couples and partners experiencing unhealthy patterns in a trauma-informed, empathic and solution oriented approach.
Jess works with couples and individuals impacted by betrayal, trust issues, and unhealthy patterns of behavior, particularly within their relationships.
Some of the challenges she sees include repeated infidelity, addiction, secrecy and lying, problematic sexual behavior such as sex and porn addiction, difficulty communicating openly and honestly, and unhealthy behaviors and mistrust resulting from past trauma. She helps her clients rebuild trust, open communication, and a healthier vision for their relationships and themselves, working toward relational and personal wellness and integrity.
Working from a humanistic and strengths-based lens, Jess employs an eclectic approach that is trauma- and neuroscience-informed, solutions-based, and draws from Acceptance and Commitment, Cognitive Behavioral, Narrative, and Psychodynamic therapies. Her clients explore their underlying needs, where unmet and unexpressed needs lead to problematic patterns, motivation to change those patterns, and core values, visions, and goals to guide them toward a more fulfilling future. As a certified yoga instructor and outdoor enthusiast, Jess also loves to bring movement and mindfulness into her work.
Jess holds an MA in Mental Health Counseling and Behavioral Medicine from Boston University School of Medicine, has passed the National Clinical Mental Health Counselor exam (NCMHCE), and is a 200-Hour Registered Yoga Teacher. She comes to the psychotherapy field after a rewarding career as an organizational consultant. Her experience helping non-profit leaders identify needs and collaborate on shared visions, values, and goals has been instrumental in her work as a therapist.
Services…
Couples Therapy
Couples therapy is available with our couples expert, Jess. Jess works with couples to help them understand, repair and heal from betrayal and rebuild trust.
In-Person Intensive
Offered for individuals & couples. Accelerate your work while charting a sustainable path forward. Tailored, in-person intensives within Greater Boston. Half & Full-day options.
1:1 Therapy
Work 1:1 through a tailored 14-item curriculum to understand, overcome and heal from problematic sexual behavior. Partner therapy is available in working with Jess Benedetto.
Group Therapy
Find your community and break isolation as you strive towards sustainable sexual integrity.
Meet the Team…
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Couples Therapist
Jess collaborates with couples and individual partners who have been impacted by problematic sexual behavior, sex addiction, porn addiction, and repeated infidelity and betrayal.
She helps her clients rebuild trust and a healthier vision for their partnership and themselves, working toward sexual, relational, and personal wellness and integrity. Working from a humanistic and strengths-based lens, Jess employs an eclectic approach that is trauma- and neuroscience-informed and draws from Acceptance and Commitment, Cognitive Behavioral, Narrative, and Psychodynamic therapies. As a certified yoga instructor and nature enthusiast Jess also loves to bring movement and mindfulness into her work to help her clients build healthier relationships with their bodies and minds. Her clients explore their underlying needs, where unmet and unexpressed needs lead to problematic behaviors, motivation to change those behaviors, and core values, visions, and goals to guide them toward a more fulfilling future.
Jess holds an MA in Mental Health Counseling and Behavioral Medicine from Boston University School of Medicine, has passed the National Clinical Mental Health Counselor exam (NCMHCE), and is a 200-Hour Registered Yoga Teacher with the National Yoga Alliance. She comes to the psychotherapy field after a rewarding career as an organizational consultant. Her experience helping non-profit leaders identify needs and collaborate on shared visions, values, and goals has been instrumental in her work with couples.
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Package Options
No-Show / Cancelation Policy: Refunds will not be issued for missed appointments or reschedules/cancelations within 24 hours of appointment time. Clients may cancel or reschedule an appointment anytime via the link in their appointment confirmation email, as long as they provide greater than 24-hour notice. If you miss or cancel an appointment with less than 24-hour notice, or fail to show up, you will be charged for the full session. PRIVACY: We will never share your data with anyone.Our Locations
173 Mt Auburn St
Watertown, MA 02472
14 Cedar St.
Amesbury, MA 01913
Hours (EST)
Monday–Friday
9:00 AM – 11:00 PM
Saturday & Sunday by request.
Click here to read letters of wisdom written by men giving advice to themselves if they could go back to their first day in recovery from porn addiction, sex addiction, infidelity and other problematic sexual behaviors. Be inspired and take comfort in their words of seasoned wisdom.
“Hey man. Your worst fears will come true. And, believe it or not, it will be the best thing that ever happened to you... Go find what makes you happy, and not just what makes you numb the hurt.”
~RM
“...Shame is going to be your biggest adversary. You will come to recognize how it’s always been a comfortable disposition for you to sit in. Fight this with everything you have. Don’t focus on yourself, don’t be self-centered as you must focus on your wife and her hurt and what she needs. Shame will prevent you from doing this. Learn to engage with people again. Become a volunteer. Join a men’s therapy group. These efforts will help you feel less shameful...”
~LM
“It’s day 1 of realizing that you have a real problem that you can’t passively fix. You are scared, you are alone, you don’t want to believe that you have a problem, you don’t want to believe that porn/sex addiction is real, let alone something that could hook its claws into you and not let go. Most of all you do not want a single soul to find out what is going on with you. The love of your family will lift you up, motivate you. Break isolation. Pick up the phone and call a friend. Your family and friends love you. Meet new people, trust me - get out there.
Tell someone what is going on with you, it can be anyone you trust. They will not oust you... move it out of your own head. Get a journal with good paper and a nice pen, and write ‘check-ins’ daily. Start the day off present... break free from your reliance on the phone. Get professional, 1:1 help. You don’t know what you don’t know, they will help you shape a recovery process for you.”
~PS
“You will learn that self-medicating with porn or working all the time were just ways to avoid your childhood. No one should be “taking care of themselves” from age 13 on. The people in your life left you... Porn was just a way to avoid the feelings. Keep getting help and using your tools to be grounded and to become a self-expert in your feelings. The love of your family will lift you up, motivate you and yes…scare you… and also let you know that YOU GOT THIS.”
~BP
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Betrayal trauma and infidelity do not have to define your relationship. With professional guidance from Jess Benedetto at BPB Counseling, you can begin to repair the damage, rebuild trust, and rediscover intimacy.
Healing After Infidelity: How Couples Therapy Can Help Rebuild Trust and Intimacy
When faced with partner betrayal trauma due to infidelity, compulsive lying, or addictive behaviors, the emotional and relational consequences can feel devastating. At BPB Counseling, our partner and couples therapist Jess Benedetto specializes in guiding individuals and couples through the intricate journey of affair repair, rebuilding trust, and returning to intimacy.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: A Path to Healing
Jess utilizes Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), an evidence-based approach that encourages acceptance of challenging emotions and commitment to meaningful, value-driven actions. Instead of avoiding the pain and discomfort associated with betrayal, ACT helps clients face and tolerate their emotions, ultimately reducing reliance on harmful coping mechanisms like compulsive behaviors or repeated infidelity.
Mindfulness and Cognitive Diffusion
Mindfulness techniques form a core part of therapy at BPB Counseling, helping clients observe their thoughts and feelings without immediately reacting. This practice, known as cognitive diffusion, allows couples to slow down automatic responses that fuel distrust and further betrayal. By recognizing that you are not defined by every thought or urge, you can regain control and align with your core values.
Understanding the Stages of Change
Change isn’t linear, especially when recovering from betrayal trauma and infidelity. Jess emphasizes the trans-theoretical model, which assesses your readiness to embrace new behaviors and maintain healthier relationship patterns. Even if motivation fluctuates, our therapeutic approach supports your progress at every stage, helping you sustain positive change.
Harm Reduction and Relapse Prevention
Recovery from infidelity and betrayal trauma often involves ups and downs. At BPB Counseling, Jess helps clients anticipate and manage triggers, both internal (stress, insecurity, painful memories) and external (specific people or situations), reducing the likelihood of relapse into harmful behaviors. Mistakes along the way do not mean starting over—they're simply part of your journey toward healthier relationships.
Addressing Trauma and Its Impact
Trauma frequently underlies compulsive and harmful behaviors seen in infidelity and betrayal trauma. Jess provides a compassionate, trauma-informed therapeutic environment, fostering safety and trust. This approach allows couples and individuals to face, understand, and heal the deeper wounds that contribute to destructive relationship patterns.
Supporting Both Partners' Healing Journeys
Understanding that recovery looks different for everyone is crucial. While one partner may be ready to commit to change, the betrayed partner might just be beginning their healing process. Jess provides couples therapy that acknowledges and supports each partner's unique path and pace. Through empathy, patience, and professional guidance, couples can find renewed intimacy and rebuild trust.
Start Your Healing Journey Today
Betrayal trauma and infidelity do not have to define your relationship. With professional guidance from Jess Benedetto at BPB Counseling, you can begin to repair the damage, rebuild trust, and rediscover intimacy.
Ready to begin your journey toward meaningful change?
Schedule a session with Jess Benedetto, Partner and Couples Therapist at BPB Counseling, and take the first step toward healing and rebuilding your relationship today.