Day 1 Letters: R.M.
Day 1 Letters are letters written by clients to their younger selves on their very first day of recovery. Share in their wisdom and knowledge gained.
If you are on Day 1 of your recovery, embrace the hope for a brighter future. These letters are posted with client approval and have been anonymized.
“Hey man —
Your worst fears will come true. And, believe it or not, it will be the best thing that ever happened to you.
You’re going to learn who your friends are and who will never, ever give up on you. It’s almost everyone you know! You’ll learn how to love yourself again and you’ll shed that sense of shame and guilt that has followed you around for 35 years. You’ll learn that you hate the feeling of loneliness but you — only you — have the power to stop it by doing nothing more than connecting with people in an honest, transparent way. There are so many people who want to see you thrive and you have the ability to let them be a part of it.
You’re also going to learn that there are people and situations you can’t control and feelings you can’t avoid — and why you won’t want to avoid them. Feel them all. Identify them all. Think about where those feelings come from and know that you don’t have to run from them or create a secret space to hide from them. They won’t kill you. And none of them are as permanent as the love of your friends and family.
Go find what makes you happy, and not just what makes you numb the hurt.”
~R.M.
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“I know you are in a bad space right now and while you may not want to listen, I have techniques that helped me when I was there. Back then I was looking for anything to take the pain away and any suggestion people offered I tried it. So, with that: I know you feel horrible. I know your guts are churning and your mind is racing, and you can’t eat nor sleep. You feel alone and unloved. Lost. Depressed. Suicidal. I lived it. Trust me. A few times. Hey man…. It will get better. Each day it will get better. You may not be dancing with daisies soon but the horrible pit you are in will end. And it will probably end quicker than you think. Probably two weeks. I look at the dark times like having the flu or norovirus. You want to die when you are in it but in time you feel better. Sure, you may feel fatigue or have a cough for a while, but the absolute low will pass. Again, this initial feeling will pass. That low is also a biological function of the body missing the feel-good hormones and chemicals. Stressor chemicals are taking over. So, if you can get separate your mind from your body that will help. It’s not the easiest but I have learned to look at myself as two people. The physical and the mental need to be compartmentalized independent of each other. Hard to do at times. LOL. But beneficial.